If it were possible to distill the secret to relationships into a magic elixir, I believe I would be able to sell it for $1 million dollars per bottle. Unfortunately, it’s not quite that simple, although there are definitely some easy ways to find and keep your partners love lasting a lifetime.

Over the years, you may have forgotten these things, but think back to the time when you were first together to really get a sense of the “secrets” I’m talking about here.

  • Love - It’s impossible to show true love for someone unless you love yourself first. This does not mean you need (or should) be a narcissist. Love is a totally different emotion, difficult to put into words, but the more you feel love for yourself and the things around you, the more your partner will be attracted and feel loving toward you as well.
  • Respect - Respect simply means that you treat your partner as an equal. When you are open to listening to their ideas, thoughts, and feelings they will be more likely to share more with you, which in the end will bring you closer.
  • Kindness - A big secret to relationships is to to be kind to your partner. Treat them how you would like to be treated, even if you are less than happy with them at a given moment.
  • Thoughtfulness - You should never take the love in your relationship for granted. Thoughtfulness doesn’t have to mean that you have to take huge efforts to put your partner first however. In fact, it is the accumulation of all the “little things” that add up over time which make your partner feel you are being thoughtful. So, just go a little out of your way to do something nice for him/her once and a while.
  • Honesty - This is probably the most important secret to relationships there is. Lies and dishonesty ruin a relationship faster than anything. Even being emotionally dishonest and not communicating openly with your partner will cause a rift over time. So, strive to be honest with yourself and your partner in all your communications, and this will go a LONG way.

So, there are the concepts. Where people run into problems is not with the theory - everybody knows you need to love your partner - they run into problems with exactly how to do and express these things.

Here are some tips:

Honesty is one of the easier ones. Open up to your partner and let them see some of your true self. This is especially important if you two are having trouble and the relationship is under stress. Honest communication is very important when you are feeling angry, doubtful, or afraid otherwise miscommunications lead to fights that never should have happened in the first place.

Respect and kindness can usually be expressed together. Support and backup your partners ideas. Really believe in your partners ideas and help to nurture them. Even if you don’t necessarily agree with them, by respecting their opinion and kindly explaining yours, you have discovered a major secret to healthy relationships.

Thoughtfulness and love are also commonly demonstrated together. The most important thing to know here is that people feel loved in different ways. For some people it is expressed best with touch: a kiss, a hug, or a gentle caress. Others don’t respond to that and need to hear that you love them. Finally, some people feel loved best when you show them, by buying a gift for example. You can show you you are being thoughtful by expressing your love in the way which makes the most sense for your relationship.

So, is there a secret to relationships? Not really… It is mostly just the common sense application of what I just described. If you can get these right you are well on your way to a long lasting happy relationship.

If you really want some secrets that will supercharge your love life, take a look at 500 Love Making Tips And Secrets. The book is tastefully done and has advise virtually anybody can implement in their love life.